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Accessories and Cupcakes

Ok, now that I have your attention.  What the heck does she mean?  So Jewelry is the last thing you put on, but it’s the first thing people notice.  When you see someone out and about and they look put together, what is it about them that makes them appear so put together?  Yes!  It’s their accessories, or the icing on their personal cupcake.  Ok, maybe not a literal cupcake but you get the idea.  When I teach women how to use a 1-2-3 system to get dressed, they find dressing isn’t a chore.   Jewelry is like the icing on a cupake.png

What do I mean by 1-2-3 steps?

So you start with your pallet (neutral bottoms), add a top of some sort, a bit of fashion and then the accessories last, for a completed look.  It’s so much easier to pick the necklace that completes your outfit when your pallet is already done.  You want to keep the number of accessories to between 11-14.  That number includes everything, so if you wear glasses, those get a point,  belts, handbags, all one point.  If I am wearing my sunglasses (which almost 100% of the time I am), that’s 1,

my wedding bands – 1

manicured nails-1

cute shoes (of course) -1

statement necklace-(2 pts)

regular necklace-1



set of bangles- 2pts

watch -1

So depending on what I have planned for the day I can add another bracelet to keep my watch company, or just go with what I have.  I’m within that 11-14 mark so I’m not bordering on the qaudy side at 14.

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You had to learn how to sit up, then crawl and then pull yourself up to stand before you could try to take a step, fashion is the same.  You are you, and there is no one else out there like you.  Find what feels comfortable to you and go with it.  After all, if you are comfortable and confident, then the rules don’t matter.  One of the biggest trends lately is mixing patterns.  I love it!  I wore my floral Old Navy swing top yesterday with my striped skirt, WHAT?  Yes, and I think it looked pretty good, if I do say so myself.  Polka dots, to stripes, and everything in between.  Below is a great visual I found on Pinterest at The Vault Files, to give you a pushing off point, if you will. mixdos

The key here is balance. I have to say I am a little obsessed with the stripes and floral look.  Oh my goodness, isn’t this fantastic?mix2mix3

Clearly obsessed, right?

mixThis one to the left is out of my comfort zone, but you can see how it just works.

mix5Coming in at a close 2nd would be my obsession with Polka Dots and Floral.  mix6

or polka dot and stripes.




How about polka dot and floral?

So you see,  rules smules do not apply anymore, maybe some guidelines “perhaps”, but not rules.

I’m gonna challenge you to go to your closet and find some of these types of prints and do some mixing.  Please share with us here so we can all glean from your wisdom.



Summer Vacation is How Long?

My top 3 ways to cope with Summer Vacation

OK, so I am just being real here, but I have how many weeks left with these crazy kids before they go back to school?  If you are like me, you are on maybe week 2 or three.  My kids are bored, complaining, whining and just all around annoying.  Some have earned the illustrious and highly coveted “chore” for said behavior.  This is not a new practice, but a time proven summer activity in our home.  So I am here to share in your sorrow and dismay, but I want to add a little encouragement.  These days will soon be past and hopefully you’ll look back with fondness not regret.  Here are my top 3 ways to deal with summer vacation. kids-running-enjoying-summer-many-different-boys-girls-park-sunny-day-casual-clothes-33996760


Plan some fun stuff.  Whether it be a trip to the local park, or movie theater or local pool.  Give them something to look forward to.  I love the free movies in the summer because. lets be honest it’s hot out there and this is a great way to cool off and get a change of scenery.  Call up your pals with children and invite them over.  Hopefully the kids will disappear for a period of time, enjoying some time with their pals and you will get some adult conversation too.



Get out by yourself.  WHAT?  Yes, you need to recharge too.  If they are old enough to leave on their own for a bit, go to the store alone, run errands alone, heck, go get a sweet tea from Chickfila and just go park somewhere under a shaded tree and enjoy your tea.  Seriously though, plan a girls night out, or in.  Convince the dads to take the kids to one house while the other house host these desperate women.  We as ladies don’t need entertainment or even food, maybe some wine or again some sweet tea, sit back and watch what happens. ” You won’t have to entertain them, or give them a topic of discussion, they will take it from there.  I volunteered at my children’s private school a few years ago and I worked with some amazing women, we make it a point to get together once a year, even if it’s just for drinks.  It is a time we all look forward to since our lives have gone in completely different directions.\


My kids hesitate to tell me they are BORED because they know they will be doing something to help with that “boredom”.  I use the acronym B.O. R. E. D.  BORED

B= Be creative

O= Run around outside for an hour.

R=  Read a book

E= Do something educational

D=Do something for something helpful for someone

Here are some other ideas from Simcha Fisher over at I Have To Sit Down.  They are pretty funny.

When all else fails, call the hubby, lock yourself in the bathroom with a glass bottle of wine and enjoy until the banging and screaming becomes too much to handle.  Good Luck!  Let us know here if you have any tried and true tactics to survive summer vacation torture.

I truly believe that we can garner strength from each other.  Take a break and do something for yourself.  We all know how important it is to take care of ourselves and yet we are usually the last on the list.  Schedule that girl time you’ve been meaning to.  Let me take care of you for a night.  I’d love to treat you and your overwhelmed friends to a trends and friends night! 19260368_10101710951471840_3575440819754530041_n

P.S. All kidding aside, we love our kiddos and wouldn’t change our situation for the world.  My heart goes out to those who do not/cannot have children, or have lost their children too early.  Motherhood is NOT all daisies and smiles.  If you are struggling, reach out to me please or someone else.  We have all been there at some time or another, it’s hardest when you don’t understand why you are unhappy, and don’t feel as if you can talk to anyone about it.  I have been there, and still struggle.  I think I am a pretty good listener too.




The Days are Long and the Years Short!

Can’t believe my eldest son, graduated from High School yesterday.


How is this possible since he was a baby only a week ago.  As a SAHM, my days with the littles were so long.  I remember watching the clock, only 4 hours til lunch, only two hours til nap time, 6 hours til hubby gets home from work.  Being a SAHM with littles is hard, and you feel like you will NEVER get out of that stage.  Looking back now, I cherish those days  My littles are turning out to be stand up young adults and I am so proud of them.  It’s not that I am ready for them to leave, but I know this is the way of things.  When #1 son leaves the roost in August to start his next chapter, I will be sad, I will miss him terribly, but I will enjoy, with fondness, the memories we made together.  I still have 3, (not so littles anymore) at home to enjoy.


What does this have to do with fashion?  Well, we all experience different stages in life, and dressing for those different stages is important.  When I had infants, and was up to my elbows in dirty daipers and burp clothes, I was not “dressing” for the day per se, unless you count a t-shirt and sweats, as “dressing”.   My babies grew and my stage changed, and I was not completely prepared for that and what it meant for my wardrobe.  When I started my Accessory Stylist business in 2010, I had a 10 year old, 8, yr old, 7 and 3 year old.


I was in a totally different stage of life and wasn’t exactly sure where I fell, in this new world.  Finding my style again and tweeking it was my priority.  I had changed from my pre-mommy stage,   I needed to develop my likes and dislikes for me personally, and not just mommy, wife, etc.  For instance, I rarely wore hoop earrings,  because we all know how much those little hands can’t resist yanking on them and possibly ripping them completely out.  OUCH!  Maybe you find yourself in the same stage and not sure where to start.  I understand.  I recognize that a mom wardrobe is different from an executive’s.  If you work outside the home your wardrobe will look different also.  A great place to start, will be with the basics.  wardrobeclassicWe all have those items in our closet that never go out of style, ie, our black dress pants, white button down, pencil skirt and blazer and even that LBD (little Black Dress).  Starting there, makes it super easy to add a couple of accessories in and change your look.  Those starter pieces are your pallet, add in some color here and there with your accessories and you are golden.  If you have these classic pieces=core wardrobe, you can add one or two, of the trends you like and not break the bank.  Truth is, when most women walk into their closets, they think, “I have nothing to wear”  honestly, we just never learned how to put together a core wardrobe, we just fly from season to season buying and disposing of the trends each year.  What a waste!  Dressing with a core wardrobe will give you a better “pushing off” place. It is so liberating!  I love that the rules my mom followed, like, no white after labor Day or before Memorial Day, do not apply anymore.  If you feel confident and comfortable in it, go for it.  I do suggest dressing comfortably but stylish. Whether you are a SAHM or back in the workplace, or in school, dressing stylish doesn’t look the same to everyone.4d072129cdfd3dd8c233047b3baa57db


Having some neutrals, like the visual above, in your closet is a must.  It’s those neutrals that are a firm base to build on. If you aren’t incorporating a lot of prints you will have more options, and those options will be easier to put together different looks, expanding your wardrobe withought buying more clothes.  I’d love to help you get started, give me a holler at  or

What tips do you have for those women re-entering the workplace,  changing careers, or starting a new one?


Navigating the trends like a Pro!

Ok, so each season we see different trends, some are good, but not all!  Some we like, some we don’t!  I want to help you navigate the trends a little easier.  So we are going to break them down and talk about how to implement some of the trends into our current wardrobes.  16729256_1340402689386715_8456725578050746477_n

Utilizing this simple trick will open up your closet to the possibilities.  When dressing with neutrals,  it’s easier to use your seasonal accessories to do the heavy lifting in your style.  Use your neutral on neutrals as your beginning pallet., and add in some trends, and you’ve got an updated and on trend closet.




So looking at some of the top trends this season after you have incorporated your neutral on neutrals, is so much easier.     Don’t be afraid to mix the trends together.  Grab that striped shirt and throw on that floral Kimono, add your accessories last and you are out the door.  Shirt dresses are huge this season.  I love a good shirt dress, they are so easy to dress up or dress down depending on your agenda for the day. You can wear a shirt dress to the office, out for dinner, to the movies or a walk on the beach, it’s so versatile.  I have not found a cold shoulder top that I think looks good on me yet, but I like this trend so I will keep looking.  The ruffle trend is another trend that I haven’t yet conquered.   In order to keep from being overwhelmed by all the trends, pick one, you probably have in your closet already.  The fact that any one of these trends looks great with your distressed jeans, may make it easier on you as well.


I love this look, who would have thought some torn jeans could look so good?  Don’t be afraid to throw on those booties as well.  There is just something about distressed jeans and our booties.  Look for open toed booties for spring and summer.




The fact that you have your core wardrobe pieces that are neutral,  means the sky is the limit.  Mix and match, try different trends alone or together, it’s your stage, go out and break a leg! Putting the finishing touches on  is so easy,  go grab your favorite necklace and earrings.

My only problem is deciding which one is my favorite for the day.



What’s your favorite trend this spring, and what trend are you scratching your head at?  As always, come find me on Facebook and Pinterest, instagram and twitter.

XOXO Lovelies,


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